Customs of behavior and dress have changed over the course of time, but courtesy will never go out of style. here will provide some tips about funeral etiquette.
Making the Most of a hard Time
It important to know what personal, religious or ethnic considerations you need to take into account. And it is also important to be respectful of the emotions of family members.
Here are some things expected of you:
- Offer an expression of love.
Sometimes we don't have words when encountering something like death. Simply telling them "I'm sorry for your loss" is usually enough. Listen and be respectful and listen contently when spoken to, and offer your words of condolence.
- Find out what the dress code is.
Almost anything goes today in the world. Sometimes the deceased has said what they want before hand and one of the most common requests say; 'not black' is a normal request. If you can't found out the family wishes, then dress inconspicuous and avoid bright colors.
- Give a gift.
it doesn't matter if it is flowers, a donation to a commitment such as offer dinner to the family. Always make sure to provide a card or gift was given.
- Sign the register book.
Make sure you include you name and the relationship you had with the deceased. This will help with the family will know who you are.
- Keep in touch.
It's may be awkward, but it means so much to the family and for most of them of them who are still healing.
But, What Shouldn't You Do?
- Don't feel that you have to stay.
If you make a visit during calling hours there's no reason your stay has to be a lengthy one.
- Don't be afraid to laugh.
Remembering their loved one fondly can mean sharing a funny story or two. Just be mindful of the time and place; if others are sharing, then you may do so too. There is simply no good reason you shouldn't talk about the deceased in a happy, positive tone.
- Don't feel you have to view the deceased if there is an open casket.
Act according to what is comfortable to you.
- Don't allow your children to be a disturbance.
If you feel they might be, then leave them with a sitter. But, if the deceased meant something to them, it's a good idea to invite them to share in the experience.
- Don't leave your cell phone on.
Switch it off before entering the funeral home, or better yet, leave it in the car. All too often, we see people checking their cell phones for messages during the services.
- Don't neglect to step into the receiving line.
Simply say how sorry you are for their loss, offer up your own name and how you knew the deceased.
- Don't be too hard on yourself if you make a mistake.
Everyone does, and you can be sure that an apology may be all that's needed to mend and soothe.
When it's all over, always remember to continue to offer support and love to the bereaved. The next few months are a time when grieving friends and relatives could need you most. Let them know that your support did not end with the funeral.
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